BROOKLYN: Crackpot Anti-Gay Assemblyman Dov Hikind Dons Blackface

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New York state Assemblyman Dov Hikind (D-Brooklyn) is the state's second-most vicious anti-gay legislator, falling only slightly behind Sen. Ruben Diaz, who is also a Democrat.  The New York Post reports on his latest bit of assholery.

Assemblyman Dov Hikind donned a blackface costume yesterday at his blowout Purim party and defended the outrageous getup as a harmless “basketball” look. The joyous Jewish celebration of Purim can often involve Halloween-type costumes and Hikind didn’t spare any detail in his curious retro look. He wore brown face paint, sunglasses, an Afro wig and an orange jersey. “I was just, I think, I was trying to emulate, you know, maybe some of these basketball players. Someone gave me a uniform, someone gave me the hair of the actual, you know, sort of a black basketball player,” Hikind told the political news Web site Politicker.

Hikind says he cannot imagine how anybody would find his costume inappropriate, insensitive, racist, or just plain in poor taste. All four! (Tipped by JMG reader Little David)

PREVIOUSLY ON JMG:  During New York state's 2011 marriage equality debate in the Assembly, Hikind brandished a photograph of Lady Gaga and declared that if marriage passes, "We should take the Torah and throw it in the garbage." In 2010 Hikind attempted to have gay victims of the Holocaust stricken from a planned memorial in his home district because seeing that homosexuals were murdered by the Nazis "diminishes the memory" of the Jews that were also slaughtered.

MINNESOTA: NOM Pledges $500K Towards Defeat Of Pro-Gay Republicans

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"Republicans like Branden Petersen don't realize that not only is voting to redefine marriage a terrible policy, it is also a career-ending vote for a Republican. NOM will do everything in our power to defeat any Republican who votes in favor of same-sex marriage. Legislators need look no further than what happened to GOP Senators in New York. Four of them were responsible for passing gay marriage. We helped take out three of those Senators by repeatedly informing their constituents of their betrayal on marriage. They are now out of office. We will not hesitate to do the same thing in Minnesota." - Hate group leader and secret Vatican employee Brian Brown, today pledging $500,000 towards the defeat of any Minnesota Republican who votes for marriage equality.

FACT CHECK: As I've pointed out here many times: The actual fact is that New York GOP Sen. James Alesi did not run because of a scandal involving a lawsuit he filed after being injured while trespassing at a stranger's house. The actual fact is that Sen. Shirley Huntley lost because she was arrested (and later pleaded guilty) to federal corruption charges. The actual fact is that former Sen. Carl Kruger is in prison right now.  And still NOM takes credit.

Nigel Barker To Make David Mixner Biopic

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Photographer, author, and former model Nigel Barker, who is best known from his 17 seasons as a judge on America's Next Top Model, has announced that he is working on a film about legendary gay activist David Mixner. Paper Magazine asked Barker about his relationship with Mixner and the upcoming film:

 "First of all I always loved a great, true story. Whenever [David and I] meet I ask him questions about his life. He's an incredible raconteur. I basically sit like a child and get whacked into this story, transformed and taken there. All of a sudden I'm in another era and another moment, and I can feel for the people. And he has a very visual way of describing. I realized [his stories] had the ability to become a film. I asked for consent for a screenplay and eventually a film of his life. He said he'd been approached in the past but never felt there was the right person. Then he said to me, "I would love you to do it."

When did you first meet David?
"I first met him at an Alan Cumming salon event. Alan Cumming has these salons where he does interesting things with about 30 people. That time Susan Sarandon was talking. I knew of David Mixner but I didn't know what he looked like. When I was introduced to him he said "Hello, I'm David" and was sitting in a wheelchair. I asked him if I could get him a drink, and he said that he didn't drink. He didn't know many people in this group and we just started talking. Later I realized, 'My god, this is David Mixner. I know his story.'"

How far along in the film-making process are you?
"We questioned him for ages and wrote down the stories. He also produced this one-man show called "From the Front Porch" which we recorded and made transcripts of. The screenplay's like a hundred pages over what people like screenplays to be. We're trying to write, get control of it and bring it down. We're hoping to have our screenplay in a good state by the next month or so and really start the process of making the film."

Barker declined to say who he has in mind to play Mixner. Hit the link and read the rest of the interview.

RELATED: I chatted with David several times in Philadelphia this weekend without him once mentioning the movie. Probably because he knew I'd have been tempted to blog the news immediately.

Bill Donohue: The Lavender Mafia Brought Down Cardinal Keith O'Brien

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"Cardinal Keith O’Brien of Scotland will not be going to Rome to join the conclave because he does not want to distract from the proceedings. He has resigned following allegations by three priests and one former priest that he was involved in improper conduct. He says the accusations are untrue. Is this another example of the 'Lavender Mafia' at work?

"Consider this. We don’t know the names of the four men making the accusations because the British newspaper behind this story, The Observer, won’t release them; the details of what allegedly happened have not been disclosed (all we know are vague statements about 'inappropriate' and 'unwanted' contact); the four accusers waited over 30 years to come forward before coordinating their joint charges.

"Cardinal Keith O’Brien must be considered innocent until proven guilty. But we don’t need to wait any longer to conclude that the British media have discredited themselves again (they do so regularly with all matters Catholic). To withhold the names of the accusers, and the details of what allegedly happened (dating back to 1980), without ever allowing the accused to rebut the charges, is despicable. Am I alone in picking up the scent of lavender in the air?" - Catholic League blowhard Bill Donohue, who should be doing cartwheels over the news that a Catholic official has only been accused of having sex with adults.

Restricted Driver's License in Tennessee

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What is a restricted driver's license in Tennessee? Often you hear that you will lose your license in Tennessee if you are convicted of a first offense DUI, is that true? Yes, in Tennessee upon your conviction for a first offense DUI you will have to forfeit your license to the Tennessee Department of Safety, and if you are eligible then you may apply for a restricted driver's license. http://nashvilleduiinfo.com

If you meet certain criteria in Tennessee you may apply for a restricted drivers license. Some of the criteria are; you may not in the last ten years have had a prior DUI; you must obtain SR-22 insurance; no prior conviction for vehicular homicide; aggravated vehicular homicide; or vehicular assault by intoxication. If you meet these criteria you may apply for a restricted driver's license from the judge that heard your case or plea.

So you might ask, on a restricted driver's license in Tennessee where can I drive? Under 55-10-403(s) there are many places you may drive, some places include safety programs ordered by the court, college classes, litter pick up, religious services, and work. However one should note that being a part time student or those searching for work, does not meet the criteria.

Where do you have to go to get your restricted driver's license? In Tennessee once the judge signs you order you must take two certified copies of the Order along with your SR-22 insurance to the DMV station. It is there you will take the eye exam and driving test to obtain your restricted license.

Will the judge sign the Order for my restricted driver's license in Tennessee if I owe court costs and fines? It depends on the county you are in, some counties in Tennessee will make you pay a fraction down on the costs and set you up on a payment plan, other counties will make you pay the entire amount before they issue you the Order to take to the Tennessee DMV station. It is entirely up to the jurisdiction you are in.

Pope's Stepping Down and God says he's quiting too

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I decided to check out god's response to the Rat's announcement he was retiring and what better place to do that than twitter?


So this asshole is quiting? The jerk that made me cry all Christmas after his hatfill screed attacking me last Christmas eve is stepping down? My tweeter response:


In any case at least this man won't be able to hurt me anymore. I just hope he stays away from kids, or doesn't get into a position to enable pedophile priests again.

Summit Church Sparks Nevada's Response To Christianity? Throw Her Out.

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Kent Paris who's reparative NARTH based agenda focuses on polluting middle of the road  Christian churches was confronted by Kathy Verbiest Baldock who authors Canyon Walker Connections at the Summit Church Sparks Nevada on February 10th 2013. This is what happened:



From the Youtube description: On February 10, 2013, after attending four sessions of the six given by ex-gay leader Kent Paris at Summit Church, Sparks, NV, I stood to make a 1:30 minute statement that I posted on my blog. I am confident Pastor Bond and Paris had already read it.
I had two plain clothes policemen and three church security men on me immediately. I had only gotten my name out of my mouth. nI am confident Pastor Bond and Paris had already read.
I had two plain clothes policemen and three church security men on me immediately. I had only gotten my name out of my mouth.
The man taping it, Mark, was pushed to a chair and also escorted out.
Here was my posted statement that got me evicted:

"Do you know the consequences of rejecting your gay youth as opposed to accepting them?

If parents with gay children were to follow the teachings and therapeutic tools offered by Kent Paris, your gay youth are EIGHT times more apt to attempt suicide than those gay youth who are accepted.

They may suffer depression SIX times more often than those who are accepted.

They are THREE times more likely to get involved in drug and alcohol abuse than those gay youth that are accepted.

They are THREE times more likely to contract HIV and/or STDs than accepted gay youth

This is research; this is scientific, peer reviewed research.

If you are the parent of a gay youth, when you leave here, stop on the way home and buy a package of razors, a bottle of whiskey, a hypodermic needle and a lifetime supply of antibiotics because that is the life you will more often impose on your gay child through your rejection and shaming.

This is what you will be doing to the child you have been charged to raise in the way they should go.

Do not try to force your child to be something they are not, something to your liking. You will not only be responsible for the effects on their mental and physical health, you will also, in all likelihood, push them from God."

I'll Be in Philadelphia for the LGBT Media Convening Next Weekend. Meet you there?

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I'll be in Philadelphia flying out of Cow Town on Friday to attend the 4th Annual LGBT editors, bloggers, and reporters convening.

This all expense paid invitation came as a suprise as it is a first for me. I've generally been viewed as a upstart outsider partly because I am a functioning illiterate, partly because I'm a radical trans activist. But apparently thats my ticket because one of the purposes of the convening is to encourage new blood participation in the blogosphere.


This convening is supported by the National Lesbian Gay Journalists Association (NLGJA) ). Bil Browning board member being crucial to the convening. The Forum is sponsored by the Evelyn & Walter Haas, Jr. Fund.

Friday night we will attend a greet and meet with NBC News and Comcast. Saturday will be spent learning better how to connect with other minorities, something I say I do but in fact am not that good at.

(from the invite) Saturday night's party will be at Tavern on Camac from 9-11. Invite your local readers to come out and join the festivities; Joe.My.God. and Bilerico usually host a meetup for fans that weekend, but this year we can all co-host! The party is being thrown by the Greater Philadelphia Tourism Marketing Corp.

We'll be staying at Loews Philadelphia and after a tour of the city I will fly home on Sunday.

It's a long ways from cowtown and planetransgender grass roots. I look forward to meeting all of the people I have agreed with, argued with but all ways respected. I hope I can meet you there.

Lauree Hayden SEIU Staffer Speaks About LGBTQ-labor Intersectionality

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Lauree Hayden a Service Employees International Union(SEIU) Staffer presented at the 2013 LGBT media conference explaining why it's important for LGBTQI writers to cover union issues.

First thing Lauree did was to ask to see a show off hands of how many of us had ever been union. Approximately 30 of the 60 or so in attendance raised theirs hands including me. Lauree then asked how many of us currently belonged to a union and all but a smattering including myself lowered our hands.

I was fired from my first job after beginning transition at Walmart after "Our Walmart" organizers entered the store a month earlier. Seemingly a non issue at the time to me I told the store manager, in a meeting he asked for, that I once belonged to the Teamsters and the United Food and Commercial Workers Union. I wasn't concerned partly out of a misplaced sense of loyalty to the store that had hired me when no one else would and after all hadn't I had just received my third year review indicating I was doing a good job?

I should have been worried.

I was fired a few months later after they continually demanded that I do a job they were fully aware was beyond me physically to do. That was just a cover as they ended up quickly firing most of the other employees who were present or even employed at the times the organizers had entered the building.

I like untold thousands of Walmart employees were fired because we  once had been or were suspected of having union affiliation even if it was years in the past. The rich are that scared of us organizing and demanding a fair share.

The truth is as the rich continue to profit at our expense at ever increasing percentage while we continue to make less in respect to what we made twenty years ago. Union breaking is and continues to be a leading tool of the one percent as evidenced by the lack of Union members present at our LGBTQI media conference.



Truly union, Cis-labor, and transgender people are meeting at the intersection of poverty, homelessness and despair. The LGBT media has a obligation to publish the map that will help guide our way back.

The Apple Doesn't Fall Far from the Tree

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This post is primarily for my husband.  The children might look like little clones of him but they have acquired many of my habits.  


Some proof in pictures:



My husband has never understood my desire to read before bed and my ability to fall asleep while I read.  (Of course, I have never understood his ability to lay his head on the pillow and be absolutely and completely sound asleep within seconds...)

Pope's Stepping Down and God says he's quiting too

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I decided to check out god's response to the Rat's announcement he was retiring and what better place to do that than twitter?


So this asshole is quiting? The jerk that made me cry all Christmas after his hatfill screed attacking me last Christmas eve is stepping down? My tweeter response:


In any case at least this man won't be able to hurt me anymore. I just hope he stays away from kids, or doesn't get into a position to enable pedophile priests again.

Summit Church Sparks Nevada's Response To Christianity? Throw Her Out.

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Kent Paris who's reparative NARTH based agenda focuses on polluting middle of the road  Christian churches was confronted by Kathy Verbiest Baldock who authors Canyon Walker Connections at the Summit Church Sparks Nevada on February 10th 2013. This is what happened:



From the Youtube description: On February 10, 2013, after attending four sessions of the six given by ex-gay leader Kent Paris at Summit Church, Sparks, NV, I stood to make a 1:30 minute statement that I posted on my blog. I am confident Pastor Bond and Paris had already read it.
I had two plain clothes policemen and three church security men on me immediately. I had only gotten my name out of my mouth. nI am confident Pastor Bond and Paris had already read.
I had two plain clothes policemen and three church security men on me immediately. I had only gotten my name out of my mouth.
The man taping it, Mark, was pushed to a chair and also escorted out.
Here was my posted statement that got me evicted:

"Do you know the consequences of rejecting your gay youth as opposed to accepting them?

If parents with gay children were to follow the teachings and therapeutic tools offered by Kent Paris, your gay youth are EIGHT times more apt to attempt suicide than those gay youth who are accepted.

They may suffer depression SIX times more often than those who are accepted.

They are THREE times more likely to get involved in drug and alcohol abuse than those gay youth that are accepted.

They are THREE times more likely to contract HIV and/or STDs than accepted gay youth

This is research; this is scientific, peer reviewed research.

If you are the parent of a gay youth, when you leave here, stop on the way home and buy a package of razors, a bottle of whiskey, a hypodermic needle and a lifetime supply of antibiotics because that is the life you will more often impose on your gay child through your rejection and shaming.

This is what you will be doing to the child you have been charged to raise in the way they should go.

Do not try to force your child to be something they are not, something to your liking. You will not only be responsible for the effects on their mental and physical health, you will also, in all likelihood, push them from God."

I'll Be in Philadelphia for the LGBT Media Convening Next Weekend. Meet you there?

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I'll be in Philadelphia flying out of Cow Town on Friday to attend the 4th Annual LGBT editors, bloggers, and reporters convening.

This all expense paid invitation came as a suprise as it is a first for me. I've generally been viewed as a upstart outsider partly because I am a functioning illiterate, partly because I'm a radical trans activist. But apparently thats my ticket because one of the purposes of the convening is to encourage new blood participation in the blogosphere.


This convening is supported by the National Lesbian Gay Journalists Association (NLGJA) ). Bil Browning board member being crucial to the convening. The Forum is sponsored by the Evelyn & Walter Haas, Jr. Fund.

Friday night we will attend a greet and meet with NBC News and Comcast. Saturday will be spent learning better how to connect with other minorities, something I say I do but in fact am not that good at.

(from the invite) Saturday night's party will be at Tavern on Camac from 9-11. Invite your local readers to come out and join the festivities; Joe.My.God. and Bilerico usually host a meetup for fans that weekend, but this year we can all co-host! The party is being thrown by the Greater Philadelphia Tourism Marketing Corp.

We'll be staying at Loews Philadelphia and after a tour of the city I will fly home on Sunday.

It's a long ways from cowtown and planetransgender grass roots. I look forward to meeting all of the people I have agreed with, argued with but all ways respected. I hope I can meet you there.

An Interview With Cleve Jones LGBT Icon on Compton and Beyond

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Cleve Jones and David Mixner held an a Q&A session during the opening reception for the LGBT Journalist's at this years Convention in Philadelphia that left many in the room scratching their heads wondering why they were talking about topics not normally associated with the LGBT agenda.

Ah, coalition building:)

One recurring theme talked about by both speakers was the importance of coalition building and their shared grief at losing much of their generation to Aids/HIV. Cleve Jones being involved with unions trying to introduce us to a demographic thats not usually LGBT friendly relaying his horror at seeing LGBT activist cross picket lines and exhorted those present not to do so. Both Jones and Mixner joked about being over 60 but answered questions with such youthful joy as to stir emotions and passions within everyone present, albeit not favorable from everyone.

This first class reception and dinner was held on the top floor of the Comcast tower so we had the opportunity to listen to a presentation expounding on how inclusive Comcast is, owner of NBC universal and Logo, and how they are striving to become the LGBT community's channel of choice.



After a quick perusal of Comcast shows I couldn't find anything highlighting transgender people in a positive way, only Rupaul on Logo who's made his contempt of trans people public and Drag Queen Sherry Vine, again not representative of trans people

Cleve Jones, sometimes called the conscious of the Castro became a volunteer for Harvey Milk after this chance encounter with him as shown in the movie "Milk":



I had a chance to catch up with Mr. Jones after he spoke. I asked Mr. Jones about the level of participation trans people had in the LGBT's communities earliest uprisings. He told me "at Compton they did but not so much at Stonewall.".
Then I asked if he felt as many trans people do, that we were being erased by mainstream media now that President Obama has raised the bar by mentioning Stonewall along with other civil rights milestones. He told me that more people did need to talk about our participation because it wasn't just gay and lesbians, there were transsexuals and tranny's there as well.

Jones noted I was slightly taken back by his use of the word tranny so he explained saying he knew it's not a word to use cavalierly but said he has always had friends who identified as trannys. He said he didn't' think it should be thought of a bad word anymore so than 'queer'. In the respectful context that Cleve said it, nether did I. Jones went on to say that he thinks transgender people spend way too much time and effort arguing about dichotomy and believes trans people need to take a more active role in advocating for ourselves.

He also said he didn't like the concept of the transgender umbrella. Monika Roberts joined in the conversation then explaining to Cleve the word transgender is essential as it allows legislators to more easily identify us.

Given that trans people are still not being represented overall in media a positive light I think one major focus of ours as LGBT journalists is to remind Comcast that there desire to be 'our' channel can only be achieved with a fair portrayal of trans people as well as gay and lesbians.

The Apple Doesn't Fall Far from the Tree

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This post is primarily for my husband.  The children might look like little clones of him but they have acquired many of my habits.  


Some proof in pictures:



My husband has never understood my desire to read before bed and my ability to fall asleep while I read.  (Of course, I have never understood his ability to lay his head on the pillow and be absolutely and completely sound asleep within seconds...)

One Million Moms Vs Geico

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One Million Moms is super-upset about the Geico commercial that features a pig and his date parked on Lover's Lane.  Via press release:

Geico has succeeded in offending its customers with this inappropriate advertisement. One Million Moms has received numerous complaints because Geico's new commercial plays with the idea of bestiality. Parents find this type of advertising repulsive and unnecessary. Airing a commercial with an animal in it will surely grab children's attention, but this is a horrible commercial for families to see. Geico does not have our children's best interest in mind. The Geico Marketing Team may have thought this would be humorous, but it is disgusting to see how the company takes lightly the act of bestiality. Let Geico know their new ad is irresponsible.

Pope's Stepping Down and God says he's quiting too

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I decided to check out god's response to the Rat's announcement he was retiring and what better place to do that than twitter?


So this asshole is quiting? The jerk that made me cry all Christmas after his hatfill screed attacking me last Christmas eve is stepping down? My tweeter response:


In any case at least this man won't be able to hurt me anymore. I just hope he stays away from kids, or doesn't get into a position to enable pedophile priests again.

Summit Church Sparks Nevada's Response To Christianity? Throw Her Out.

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Kent Paris who's reparative NARTH based agenda focuses on polluting middle of the road  Christian churches was confronted by Kathy Verbiest Baldock who authors Canyon Walker Connections at the Summit Church Sparks Nevada on February 10th 2013. This is what happened:



From the Youtube description: On February 10, 2013, after attending four sessions of the six given by ex-gay leader Kent Paris at Summit Church, Sparks, NV, I stood to make a 1:30 minute statement that I posted on my blog. I am confident Pastor Bond and Paris had already read it.
I had two plain clothes policemen and three church security men on me immediately. I had only gotten my name out of my mouth. nI am confident Pastor Bond and Paris had already read.
I had two plain clothes policemen and three church security men on me immediately. I had only gotten my name out of my mouth.
The man taping it, Mark, was pushed to a chair and also escorted out.
Here was my posted statement that got me evicted:

"Do you know the consequences of rejecting your gay youth as opposed to accepting them?

If parents with gay children were to follow the teachings and therapeutic tools offered by Kent Paris, your gay youth are EIGHT times more apt to attempt suicide than those gay youth who are accepted.

They may suffer depression SIX times more often than those who are accepted.

They are THREE times more likely to get involved in drug and alcohol abuse than those gay youth that are accepted.

They are THREE times more likely to contract HIV and/or STDs than accepted gay youth

This is research; this is scientific, peer reviewed research.

If you are the parent of a gay youth, when you leave here, stop on the way home and buy a package of razors, a bottle of whiskey, a hypodermic needle and a lifetime supply of antibiotics because that is the life you will more often impose on your gay child through your rejection and shaming.

This is what you will be doing to the child you have been charged to raise in the way they should go.

Do not try to force your child to be something they are not, something to your liking. You will not only be responsible for the effects on their mental and physical health, you will also, in all likelihood, push them from God."

I'll Be in Philadelphia for the LGBT Media Convening Next Weekend. Meet you there?

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I'll be in Philadelphia flying out of Cow Town on Friday to attend the 4th Annual LGBT editors, bloggers, and reporters convening.

This all expense paid invitation came as a suprise as it is a first for me. I've generally been viewed as a upstart outsider partly because I am a functioning illiterate, partly because I'm a radical trans activist. But apparently thats my ticket because one of the purposes of the convening is to encourage new blood participation in the blogosphere.


This convening is supported by the National Lesbian Gay Journalists Association (NLGJA) ). Bil Browning board member being crucial to the convening. The Forum is sponsored by the Evelyn & Walter Haas, Jr. Fund.

Friday night we will attend a greet and meet with NBC News and Comcast. Saturday will be spent learning better how to connect with other minorities, something I say I do but in fact am not that good at.

(from the invite) Saturday night's party will be at Tavern on Camac from 9-11. Invite your local readers to come out and join the festivities; Joe.My.God. and Bilerico usually host a meetup for fans that weekend, but this year we can all co-host! The party is being thrown by the Greater Philadelphia Tourism Marketing Corp.

We'll be staying at Loews Philadelphia and after a tour of the city I will fly home on Sunday.

It's a long ways from cowtown and planetransgender grass roots. I look forward to meeting all of the people I have agreed with, argued with but all ways respected. I hope I can meet you there.

Video: London Police Throw Sick Transwoman To Ground ripping Her wig Off in Brutal Arrest

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Eyewitness have come forward after seeing a transwoman assaulted in Soho by police. Although this video may not show explicit police brutality apparently there was much more happening since numerous complaints have been filed. A crowd estimated at 100 people gathered and begun yelling for the police to stop after they knocked her wig off, tore her purse from her scattering the contents, pounding her head into the pavement while they stood on her twisting her arms behind her back shouting at her she wasn't 'normal'.



Gay star News reports that 'Three huge officers violently pushed the trans in question against a window, immediately hand cuffing her with extreme force.

'The victim then had her wig ripped from her head, her handbag and purse literally emptied out on the road, so her personal belongings were damaged and scattered around her.

'Meanwhile police officers mocked her for her dress and having feminine items items in her handbag shouting at her: "You're not normal! We'll let you get you up in a few minutes but you need to act like a normal human being."

Read more at Gay Star News London police accused of mocking a sick trans woman in 'brutal arrest'

H/T to Kelly for this story.

I'll Be in Philadelphia for the LGBT Media Convening Next Weekend. Meet you there?

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I'll be in Philadelphia flying out of Cow Town on Friday to attend the 4th Annual LGBT editors, bloggers, and reporters convening.

This all expense paid invitation came as a suprise as it is a first for me. I've generally been viewed as a upstart outsider partly because I am a functioning illiterate, partly because I'm a radical trans activist. But apparently thats my ticket because one of the purposes of the convening is to encourage new blood participation in the blogosphere.


This convening is supported by the National Lesbian Gay Journalists Association (NLGJA) ). Bil Browning board member being crucial to the convening. The Forum is sponsored by the Evelyn & Walter Haas, Jr. Fund.

Friday night we will attend a greet and meet with NBC News and Comcast. Saturday will be spent learning better how to connect with other minorities, something I say I do but in fact am not that good at.

(from the invite) Saturday night's party will be at Tavern on Camac from 9-11. Invite your local readers to come out and join the festivities; Joe.My.God. and Bilerico usually host a meetup for fans that weekend, but this year we can all co-host! The party is being thrown by the Greater Philadelphia Tourism Marketing Corp.

We'll be staying at Loews Philadelphia and after a tour of the city I will fly home on Sunday.

It's a long ways from cowtown and planetransgender grass roots. I look forward to meeting all of the people I have agreed with, argued with but all ways respected. I hope I can meet you there.

Montana Transgender Rights Bill 481 Gets First House Hearing

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Montana House Bill HB 481 PDF received its first Judicial committee hearing Tuesday. The bill containing public accommodation provisions still has two more hearing before it can be voted on the House floor.

There were many proponents of the bill but one opponent, Dallas Erickson using the time tested fail fear mongering approach claimed the bill would ruin the state for religion.

The group Erickson claims to represent "Help Our Moral Environment" has no web address that I could locate but is listed by Guide Star without a mission statement or any validating information.

Source Bear Tooth NBC "By the end of the hearing, committee members clarified the goal of the bill. A proponent assured the committee the bill would not change any
definitions that apply to the Montana Human Rights Act, including
distinctly private organizations such as the Boy Scouts of America.
The House Judiciary Committee will hold 2 more hearings on the bill
before taking executive action. If the bill passes, it will go to the
House floor for a full debate.

ต่อไปนายกเทศมนตรีกรุงเทพมหานคร A เพื่อนคน Transgender | Leading Candidate Courts Thai Trans Votes

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บางที หรือบางทีไม่ Maybe, but then maybe not.

Pongsapat Pongcharoen the leading candidate in the race to become the next mayor of Bangkok has released a campaign video with many transgender faces, but no policies.



Source: Global Post His ad also runs through a list of Thai-language sexual identities that will prove dizzying to the uninitiated. In addition to "kathoeys," he's embracing mainstream gay identities in Thailand such as "toms" (butch lesbians) and "dees" (lipstick lesbians). And he's also thrown in few highly obscure identifications that drove me to the wilderness of Thai message boards. (A "cherry," I've just learned, is a non-transgendered woman seeking a kathoey.)

What's the takeaway here?

Perhaps it's that, in the 21st century, we can finally envision a society in which politicians eager for power practice equal opportunity pandering.

Perhaps or maybe Pongsapat Pongcharoen was so impressed with the global transgender community which stood with the Thai trans community compelling IKEA to apologize for their problematic transgender ad he decided to court us politically.

It is our T.E.R.N. Transgender Equality Right Now. Not just in one country. We are worldwide.

Kenneth Furr, Off Duty DC Cop Who Tried To Murder Trans Woman Appealing Suspended Sentence

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Kenneth Furr the drunk and probably drugged cop who tried to murder two trans woman and three friends is appealing his conviction of off-duty assault with a dangerous weapon and solicitation of prostitution. Furr was sentenced to three years and 30 days in prison, 100 hours of community service and fined $150.00.

I was livid after the judge suspended the sentence placing Furr on three years probation fearing Furr and others would interpret that slap on the wrist as tacit approval by the Judge of his murderous intent.

The DC Trans Coalition was outraged issuing a statement regarding Furr's original sentence: “This result is the product of a legal system that constantly devalues trans people’s lives,” said DC Trans Coalition member Jason Terry. “Officer Furr’s defense team actively sought to portray the victims as somehow deserving of this violence, and apparently they succeeded. If roles had been reversed and a trans woman had gotten drunk and flashed a gun at a police officer, the results would be drastically different.” It is important to note that Furr was convicted only of flashing a weapon at two gay men involved in the incident, not for shooting at the trans women and others involved.

“Officer Furr exemplifies why this fear exists,” said Jason Terry. “DC’s trans communities face blatant discrimination, harassment, and violence from police officers every day, yet when an officer drunkenly shoots at trans people, accountability seems to disappear.”

Furr has no remorse for attempting to murder those transgender woman and has much to my astonishment, filed an appeal.

Jason Terry of the DC Trans Coalition was unaware that Furr was appealing and told Metro Weekly:

'I think this reaffirms the suspicion that Kenneth Furr remains a threat to our communities, and lacks both the remorse and self-awareness necessary for people in our communities to be able to feel they can safely go about their lives,'' Terry wrote. ''Somehow Furr and his legal team keep making him out to be the victim here, and that's just not a narrative that we can allow to stand.''

Terry said he hopes that if Furr's sentence somehow ends up being revisited, the appellate court will mandate ''some sort of transformational justice process, so that Officer Furr, his victims and the impacted communities can find a path forward, free from continued fear.'

It's my hope the Judge will revoke his suspension and put him behind bars were he should be.

Fox News and Massachusetts Family Institute Slam New Student Transgender Policy

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The Fox News headline "Students Who Refuse to Affirm Transgender Classmates Face Punishment" sets the stage for this "Cultural War" against trans people written by Todd Starnes.

Deconstructing Fox lies.

The headline of Starnes article is a lie. There is no wording in the new policy mentioning disciplinary actions of any kind.

Todd Starnes writes "The new rules would also prevent teachers and administrators from telling parents with which gender their child identifies."

That's a lie. According to the MassachusettsNondiscrimination on the Basis of Gender Identity the school will be empowered to formulate a plan with the student to inform others that is in the best interest of the student providing the student is over the age of 14 or has entered the 9th grade. If the student is younger than that the students parents should be automatically be brought into the conversation to help formulate the plan.


Fox used the vitriol of a hate group to validate this hate filled screed:

"The Massachusetts Family Institute denounced the new rules calling them a violation of privacy."

“Fundamentally, boys need to be using the boys’ room and girls need to be using the girls’ rooms, and we base that on their anatomical sex, not some sort of internalized gender identity,” said Andrew Beckwith, the institute’s general counsel."

"Beckwith told Fox News the new policy has a “very broad standard that is ripe for abuse.”

We hear this tripe from haters, the door will be left open for predators. What a heap of trash.

Here's what the new policy says about public accommodations:


Fox isn't done with Beckwith yet pandering to the fears of haters saying:

"And any student who refuses to refer to a transgendered student by the name or sex they identify with could face punishment.

For example – a fifth grade girl might feel uncomfortable using the restroom if there is an eighth grade transgendered boy in the next stall.

Under the state guidelines, the girl would have no recourse, Beckwith said.

“And if the girl continued to complain she could be subjected to discipline for not affirming that student’s gender identity choice,” he told Fox News."

“It should not be tolerated and can be grounds for student discipline,” the directive states

That is a bold faced italicized lie.

Again the policy was posted earlier in the article. There are is no mention of discipline or course of actions laid out if and when a child's gender expression is challenged.

Then gym came up. the directive suggests:


So there it is. You can read the full Fox screed Here.

Headline Of The Day

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Score one for the FSM. In New Jersey:

Motor vehicle workers in Dayton called police on a man who insisted on wearing a pasta strainer on his head during the taking of his driver’s license photo, according to a police report. South Brunswick police officers responded to the MVC facility on Route 130 on a call that a man renewing his driver's license refused to remove the strainer on his head, according to a police report. The incident occurred about noon on Saturday, Feb. 2. The man, Aaron Williams, 25, who gave an Egg Harbor Township address, told motor vehicle workers the strainer was a religious head covering and he had a right to wear it in his driver’s license photo.

(Tipped by JMG reader Mick)

Liberty Counsel Files Final Brief To Block CA Ban On "Ex-Gay" Therapy

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The Liberty Counsel has filed its final reply brief in their battle to block California's ban on "ex-gay" torture for LGBT minors.  Via press release:

The Reply Brief points out that SB 1172 is unconstitutional because it bans one viewpoint on same-sex sexual attractions, behavior, or identity. Affirming homosexuality is permitted, but counsel to change is banned. The Reply Brief also points out that a number of California counseling associations objected to a virtually identical version of the law, stating it was an “unprecedented regulation of psychotherapy,” and noting that the definition of “sexual orientation change efforts” was vague, which is part of Liberty Counsel’s argument against SB 1172.

The Reply Brief also points to the 2009 American Psychological Association’s Task Force Report that admits sexual orientation, behavior, and identity are “fluid,” and thus capable of change. Yet, SB 1172 bans change therapy under any circumstance. “The minors we represent have not and do not want to act on same-sex attractions, nor do they want to engage in such behavior. They are greatly benefiting from counseling,” said Mathew D. Staver, Founder and Chairman of Liberty Counsel. “These minors have struggled with same-sex attraction and have been able to reduce or eliminate the stress and conflict in their lives by receiving counseling that best aligns with their religious and moral values,” said Staver.

PUERTO RICO: Territorial Supreme Court To Uphold Ban On Gay Adoptions

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Andres Duque provides a translation at Blabbeando:

Puerto Rico's El Vocero is reporting that the island's Supreme Tribunal will be backing an adoption ban for same-sex couples in a 5-4 decision to be announced later today. El Vocero says that the ruling comes after a Puerto Rican woman sought to adopt her lesbian partner's daughter. A current law "bans the adoption of a minor if the biological mother doesn't give up her rights unless the couple consists of a man and a woman", according to the paper. The women had argued that Article 138 of the Civil Code was unconstitutional because it banned adoptions by same-sex couples.

Duque notes that Puerto Rico native Ricky Martin has tweeted his disappointment.

RELATED: A massive crowd demonstrated against same-sex marriage at the Puerto Rico capitol building on Monday.

Quote Of The Day - Bill Donohue

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"The most common effect of amorality, they said, is narcissism. Narcissism is the only word that adequately explains the reaction of gays to AIDS: it was everyone’s fault but theirs. If anyone has any doubt about this, he should watch How to Survive a Plague.  The documentary, which is up for an Oscar, is the work of David France, a talented gay writer. Mayor Ed Koch, ever honest, accuses ACT-UP of using 'fascist tactics.' Fascism was certainly on display when gays, led by ACT-UP, rushed St. Patrick’s Cathedral in December 1989: they disrupted Mass, spat the Eucharist on the floor, stopped people from going to Communion, etc. The film shows some of this. Gay activists in the 1980s and early 1990s were convinced that everyone from President Reagan to the Food and Drug Administration were impeding progress for a cure to their self-inflicted disease. Though the movie was made to garner admiration, it accomplishes nothing of the sort. But it does elicit pity." - Catholic League blowhard Bill Donohue.

Anti-Gay Former GOP Sen. Pete Dominici Exposed For Fathering Love Child

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When he was in Congress, former Sen. Pete Domenici (R-NM) racked up an impressive record of opposing every bit of LGBT-related legislation that came up.  He voted for a constitutional ban on same-sex marriage. He twice voted against the Hate Crimes Act.  He voted for DOMA.  He voted against ENDA.  He earned 0% ratings from both the HRC and ACLU, which made him proud.

Because, you know, Jesus.

But one thing Domenici didn't oppose was some sack time with the daughter of another Senator.

Former Sen. Pete Domenici of New Mexico revealed Wednesday that he fathered a child outside his marriage three decades ago with the daughter of another former senator. Domenici, 80, a Republican who served six terms in the Senate before retiring in 2008, and the mother of the child each released statements to the Albuquerque Journal acknowledging Domenici’s fatherhood. “I deeply regret this and am very sorry for my behavior,” Domenici said. “I hope New Mexicans will view that my accomplishments for my beloved state outweigh my personal transgression.” The child, now grown, was identified as Adam Paul Laxalt, a lawyer in Las Vegas. His mother, Michelle Laxalt, is the daughter of Paul Laxalt, a Republican who represented Nevada in the Senate for 12 years before leaving in 1987.

A devout Catholic, Domenici also earned a 0% rating from Americans United for Separation of Church and State. Because: Jesus.

Summit Church Sparks Nevada's Response To Christianity? Throw Her Out.

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Kent Paris who's reparative NARTH based agenda focuses on polluting middle of the road  Christian churches was confronted by Kathy Verbiest Baldock who authors Canyon Walker Connections at the Summit Church Sparks Nevada on February 10th 2013. This is what happened:



From the Youtube description: On February 10, 2013, after attending four sessions of the six given by ex-gay leader Kent Paris at Summit Church, Sparks, NV, I stood to make a 1:30 minute statement that I posted on my blog. I am confident Pastor Bond and Paris had already read it.
I had two plain clothes policemen and three church security men on me immediately. I had only gotten my name out of my mouth. nI am confident Pastor Bond and Paris had already read.
I had two plain clothes policemen and three church security men on me immediately. I had only gotten my name out of my mouth.
The man taping it, Mark, was pushed to a chair and also escorted out.
Here was my posted statement that got me evicted:

"Do you know the consequences of rejecting your gay youth as opposed to accepting them?

If parents with gay children were to follow the teachings and therapeutic tools offered by Kent Paris, your gay youth are EIGHT times more apt to attempt suicide than those gay youth who are accepted.

They may suffer depression SIX times more often than those who are accepted.

They are THREE times more likely to get involved in drug and alcohol abuse than those gay youth that are accepted.

They are THREE times more likely to contract HIV and/or STDs than accepted gay youth

This is research; this is scientific, peer reviewed research.

If you are the parent of a gay youth, when you leave here, stop on the way home and buy a package of razors, a bottle of whiskey, a hypodermic needle and a lifetime supply of antibiotics because that is the life you will more often impose on your gay child through your rejection and shaming.

This is what you will be doing to the child you have been charged to raise in the way they should go.

Do not try to force your child to be something they are not, something to your liking. You will not only be responsible for the effects on their mental and physical health, you will also, in all likelihood, push them from God."

I'll Be in Philadelphia for the LGBT Media Convening Next Weekend. Meet you there?

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I'll be in Philadelphia flying out of Cow Town on Friday to attend the 4th Annual LGBT editors, bloggers, and reporters convening.

This all expense paid invitation came as a suprise as it is a first for me. I've generally been viewed as a upstart outsider partly because I am a functioning illiterate, partly because I'm a radical trans activist. But apparently thats my ticket because one of the purposes of the convening is to encourage new blood participation in the blogosphere.


This convening is supported by the National Lesbian Gay Journalists Association (NLGJA) ). Bil Browning board member being crucial to the convening. The Forum is sponsored by the Evelyn & Walter Haas, Jr. Fund.

Friday night we will attend a greet and meet with NBC News and Comcast. Saturday will be spent learning better how to connect with other minorities, something I say I do but in fact am not that good at.

(from the invite) Saturday night's party will be at Tavern on Camac from 9-11. Invite your local readers to come out and join the festivities; Joe.My.God. and Bilerico usually host a meetup for fans that weekend, but this year we can all co-host! The party is being thrown by the Greater Philadelphia Tourism Marketing Corp.

We'll be staying at Loews Philadelphia and after a tour of the city I will fly home on Sunday.

It's a long ways from cowtown and planetransgender grass roots. I look forward to meeting all of the people I have agreed with, argued with but all ways respected. I hope I can meet you there.

Kenyan Teen arrested for being Trans is Facing New Charges

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In 2012 Kenyan transgender teenager Brenda Stella Achieng was arrested for Pretext/defamation of character after her employer on the Nyamasaria estate discovered she is transgender. According to Identity Kenya.com she was treated very badly during the arrest. Brenda was paraded about the city and while awaiting trial and held in solitary in a mens prison.

Since then Changing Attitudes has received a report from Brenda's hearing confirming that those charges were dropped.

A couple of months after she was fired the family Brenda worked for had her arrested again for allegedly stealing cell phones from their home. But those charges are extremely suspect according to Voices of Women in Western Kenya (VOWWEK) and Jinsiangu because of how long it was after her dismissal that the charges were filed.

But more than likely these recent charges against Brenda were motivated by hate, just like the previous ones.

I have reached out to Idenity Kenya for more information to update this post with.

So its a call to the worlds bloggers and journalists and activists to publish about our family in African, especially Nigeria, Uganda and Brenda's country Kenya. We care about you. You are our family.

Vida Plena Negado: Trans Woman Slain in Mexico Minutes From Where Anges Torres Was Murdered

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A young trans woman was found dead in Santa Isabel Cholula with her head stove in, her body showing signs of torture according to Sinembargo.mx.

This murder is only 21 Kilometers from Puebla Mexico where trans activist Anges Torres was burned to death in 2012.

Source Sinembargo.mx:

For his part, the President of Vida Plena(Full Life) organization, dedicated to the defence of homosexual rights, Onán Vázquez Chávez, said that "there are indications to suspect that it is a crime for homophobia".

Vazquez recalled that in the past 14 years is a record reading of 29 crimes by homophobia in that State, of which only four have been resolved by the authorities.

"They are committing these crimes with the certainty that the authorities will not do anything and that is unfortunate," said the leader of Vida Plena.

Source Wikipedia on LGBT rights mexico:

Former assistant attorney for crime victims at the Federal District Attorney General's Office (PGJDF) Barbara Illan Rondero strongly criticized the lack of sensitivity and professionalism on the part of investigators in crimes committed against homosexuals and lesbians:

"I still can't determine if this is due to negligence, lack of preparation or down-right covering up, and is a matter that has to do with the intention of not solving these crimes because they carry no weight of importance".[19]
Alejandro Brito Lemus, director of the news supplement Letra S (Letter S), claimed that only four percent of gays and lesbians who suffer from discrimination present their complaints to authorities:

"In spite of the gravity of the aggressions suffered, the majority of gays, lesbians and transsexuals prefer to keep silent about what happens and to remain isolated in fear of being attacked again in revealing their sexual orientation".

Body Discovered In Dumpster Near Where Transgender Rapper Evon (Young LT) Young Was Murdered

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The badly decomposed mutilated body discovered last night had been covered in a white sheet was less than a mile and a half from where Evon Young LT was murdered. The police have yet to identify the body. I will update when they make a identification.

Although five people have been charged with Young's murder his body has not been recovered. The police gave up trying to finding him in the Menominee landfill last week.

WTMJ has more on this story.

Today In Super-Creepy Christian Toys

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Viciously anti-gay crackpot Pastor John Hagee is selling a super-creepy teddy bear that drones out bible quotes while children sleep.  And we're the ones indoctrinating kids.

With the Scripture player nestled inside of the teddy bear, your child can sleep while literally holding onto and listening to the comforting promises of our Lord and Savior. Narrated by Pastor Matthew Hagee, the Promises To Grow On Scripture player contains both Words of encouragement and Bible verses in a format especially tailored for children. Whether at sleep or play, your children and grandchildren can listen to the soothing Word of God’s promises.

(Via Christian Nightmares)

MN Marriage Bill To Be Introduced

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Openly gay Minnesota state Sen. Scott Dibble plans to introduce his marriage equality bill this week.

Dibble believes this legislation has the momentum to pass after voters defeated a constitutional amendment that would’ve strengthened the existing gay marriage ban.  “It’s just simply an amendment that removes the restriction that disallows some couples from getting married,” Dibble said. “My strong sense, even from folks in greater Minnesota, is that they’re comfortable with this, they know that Minnesota has changed a lot and is continuing to change at a very rapid pace.”

Dibble says that his bill and a similar one set to be introduced in the state House will likely not be considered until after both chambers finish their upcoming budget deliberations. Minnesota For Marriage, home to the detestable Kalley Yanta, is planning to protest against the bills at the state Capitol Building on March 7th.

Mississippi Ratifies 13th Amendment

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It doesn't seem possible, but Mississippi never ratified the 13th Amendment. Until now.

Life really does move slower in the South. One hundred forty-eight years after Congress sent the 13th Amendment outlawing slavery to the states for ratification, Mississippi officially has joined the ranks. The state’s Legislature did vote to ratify it in 1995 — but the vote was never made official because lawmakers failed to inform the U.S. archivist, according to a report in the Clarion-Ledger. They’ve finally finished the job, Newser reports, and it’s official: Slavery is unconstitutional in Mississippi.

According to Wikipedia, Kentucky only ratified the amendment in 1976.

Dolphin Flash Mob

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Mystery over the SEVEN-MILE long 'super mega-pod' of 100,000 dolphins spotted off the coast of San Diego. A group of over 100,000 dolphins spotted off the coast of San Diego caused a spectacle for nature watchers as they traveled together in an enormous pack. 'They were coming from all directions, you could see them from as far as the eye can see,' Joe Dutra said after seeing the spectacle first hand. Mr Dutra, who captains Hornblower Cruises, was out on his daily tour with a boat full of nature watchers when he spotted the massive group of dolphins. 'I've seen a lot of stuff out here... but this is the biggest I've ever seen, ever,' he told the local NBC affiliate.

Restricted Driver's License in Tennessee

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What is a restricted driver's license in Tennessee? Often you hear that you will lose your license in Tennessee if you are convicted of a first offense DUI, is that true? Yes, in Tennessee upon your conviction for a first offense DUI you will have to forfeit your license to the Tennessee Department of Safety, and if you are eligible then you may apply for a restricted driver's license. http://nashvilleduiinfo.com

If you meet certain criteria in Tennessee you may apply for a restricted drivers license. Some of the criteria are; you may not in the last ten years have had a prior DUI; you must obtain SR-22 insurance; no prior conviction for vehicular homicide; aggravated vehicular homicide; or vehicular assault by intoxication. If you meet these criteria you may apply for a restricted driver's license from the judge that heard your case or plea.

So you might ask, on a restricted driver's license in Tennessee where can I drive? Under 55-10-403(s) there are many places you may drive, some places include safety programs ordered by the court, college classes, litter pick up, religious services, and work. However one should note that being a part time student or those searching for work, does not meet the criteria.

Where do you have to go to get your restricted driver's license? In Tennessee once the judge signs you order you must take two certified copies of the Order along with your SR-22 insurance to the DMV station. It is there you will take the eye exam and driving test to obtain your restricted license.

Will the judge sign the Order for my restricted driver's license in Tennessee if I owe court costs and fines? It depends on the county you are in, some counties in Tennessee will make you pay a fraction down on the costs and set you up on a payment plan, other counties will make you pay the entire amount before they issue you the Order to take to the Tennessee DMV station. It is entirely up to the jurisdiction you are in.

Summit Church Sparks Nevada's Response To Christianity? Throw Her Out.

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Kent Paris who's reparative NARTH based agenda focuses on polluting middle of the road  Christian churches was confronted by Kathy Verbiest Baldock who authors Canyon Walker Connections at the Summit Church Sparks Nevada on February 10th 2013. This is what happened:



From the Youtube description: On February 10, 2013, after attending four sessions of the six given by ex-gay leader Kent Paris at Summit Church, Sparks, NV, I stood to make a 1:30 minute statement that I posted on my blog. I am confident Pastor Bond and Paris had already read it.
I had two plain clothes policemen and three church security men on me immediately. I had only gotten my name out of my mouth. nI am confident Pastor Bond and Paris had already read.
I had two plain clothes policemen and three church security men on me immediately. I had only gotten my name out of my mouth.
The man taping it, Mark, was pushed to a chair and also escorted out.
Here was my posted statement that got me evicted:

"Do you know the consequences of rejecting your gay youth as opposed to accepting them?

If parents with gay children were to follow the teachings and therapeutic tools offered by Kent Paris, your gay youth are EIGHT times more apt to attempt suicide than those gay youth who are accepted.

They may suffer depression SIX times more often than those who are accepted.

They are THREE times more likely to get involved in drug and alcohol abuse than those gay youth that are accepted.

They are THREE times more likely to contract HIV and/or STDs than accepted gay youth

This is research; this is scientific, peer reviewed research.

If you are the parent of a gay youth, when you leave here, stop on the way home and buy a package of razors, a bottle of whiskey, a hypodermic needle and a lifetime supply of antibiotics because that is the life you will more often impose on your gay child through your rejection and shaming.

This is what you will be doing to the child you have been charged to raise in the way they should go.

Do not try to force your child to be something they are not, something to your liking. You will not only be responsible for the effects on their mental and physical health, you will also, in all likelihood, push them from God."